You Will Not Die Alone

How to Eliminate Fear and Date With Confidence

Let’s tackle something everyone seems to worry about but nobody likes to admit out loud: the fear of ending up alone. You know, that nagging anxiety you feel when your friends effortlessly pair up while you’re left debating whether to swipe left or right—again. Maybe you’re newly divorced, tentatively stepping back into dating, or you just watched another engagement announcement and thought, "Great, another reminder that I’m behind."

Trust me, I’ve been there. With my formerly chaotic attachment style, my love life felt like an endless loop of "I hope they text me back" quickly followed by, "Oh no, why are they texting me so much?" But here’s what I learned: it wasn’t fate or bad luck causing this turmoil—it was my own fear of being alone that was steering the ship. Specifically, the fear that I was too damaged to ever find love. Once I recognized this and stopped letting fear run the show, things genuinely shifted.